Okay so you’ve finally found what it is you want out of life. Great! And you wrote down a set of SMART goals and how to achieve them. Awesome! You’ve been at it for a month and you’re feeling unstoppable and no one can bring you down. Then…Boom! Your first real rejection. And you’re thinking to yourself, “Wait, I’m doing good things here. I’m fulfilling my dream. I did everything right. Are they not seeing what I’m seeing?” The answer plain and simple is “No”. They don’t see what you see and you can’t blame them. Here’s why:
1. No one knows you as well as you do.
We all live in our own reality. We choose how we are going to process the things that happen to us in our lives. We see everything from our point of view first and then, if we are feeling saintly, we choose to try and see it from someone else’s. No one knows what we do when we are alone. No one can gasp all of our thoughts at every waking moment. No one has seen the things that we’ve seen or done the things we’ve done. Some times that’s good, like for our embarrassing teenage years. And sometimes it’s bad, like when we prepped for that interview all night and it blows up in our faces. You choose what people know about you. You shape their image of you, through your words and actions. No one knows you until you let them. It’s up to you to make yourself important in some else’s eyes.
2. The world doesn’t owe you a thing.
Everyone has heard about the law of attraction, The Secret or whatever you want to call it. The guiding principle is that what ever you create in you mind the universe will help you to create it in your reality. Some may get this confused as “the world or the universe owes me something”. This is a big mistake. A sense of entitlement is when you know you’ve reached the end. You should be working on your goals for you and for peace of mind. You’re not doing it for anyone else. You’re not doing it for material possessions. You should be dong it so that at the end of the day you go to bed with a clear conscience and excited for tomorrow’s adventures. That leads us to the final reason you can’t blame anyone for not seeing you’re dream.
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.
3. Your Dream is yours and no one else’s.
No one knows you as well as you do. No one has seen you trying to better yourself every day. The world doesn’t owe you a thing. Even after working your butt off there are billions of forces at play that have an effect on your life. You can’t control them. Except it and move on. Your dream is yours. Your life experience and your work have brought it to fruition. Don’t expect others to see it. It’s not theirs to see.
Think of how Walt Disney felt when he first shared his idea of a talking cartoon full length movie. Or when Steve Jobs said he would put a personal computer in every home. Or when Arnold Schwarzenegger said he wanted to run for office. They all faced rejection and were very open about its importance. But they kept moving forward. Claim your dream. Get back up. Get back out there and you better be willing to die for your dream. Because if you aren’t willing to die for your dream it most certainly will die with you. And no one will ever have know it existed. It’s all up to you. Good Luck!
Keep Moving Forward,